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post #1 of 44 Old 02-14-2019, 05:40 PM Thread Starter
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Wives not understanding your needs

I really don't know how to approach this...
How many men on here feel that their partner don't understand our need for machines like a snowblower.
Same could be said for how many men on here feel that their partner don't understand our need for sex, but that's a complete other forum topic for Dr Ruth.
When our other says there's a burnt bulb in the bahtroom, she doesn't mean I'll go to the hardware store and get a bulb and I'll replace it. She means "Ah ******* get off your butt and fix this" When she says the bathroom drain flows slowly she doesn't mean "I'll get the tools out and clean the trap" She means "Ah ******* get off your butt and fix this"
I'm 62 and getting real tired of this and have no clue how to get out of this predicament. Leaving behind all that I've worked for all my life is a solution but a very hurting one.


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Wow, at 62 and you live and feel like this .... I think you already stayed to long !!
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Wow, at 62 and you live and feel like this .... I think you already stayed to long !!
To be fair it was hard for me to leave with 2 baby girls, I couldn't in my hearth see them being raised by a step dad. My girls are doing fine now and I was there for them every step of the way. They have now left home and there lies the delima of this poll. I don't love her anymore and she obviously doesn't care for me at all. I'm just paying for a roof over her head. A steel one at that. Every time I try to talk to her she turns it around on me and I'm somewhat of a wimp caught in a wormhole.


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At 62 why not stick around and make the best of it? And maybe go to counseling.

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I vote none of the above. Go to work and make it work. Show her kindness, gentleness, compassion and patience. Treat her like a queen... Your queen.

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At 62 why not stick around and make the best of it? And maybe go to counseling.



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I vote none of the above. Go to work and make it work. Show her kindness, gentleness, compassion and patience. Treat her like a queen... Your queen.

I'm with you micah68kj and if you're really lucky..., your wife knows how to pull the starter cord on the single stage and gets your driveway done before you get home from work.., like my does!!!

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I really don't know how to approach this...
How many men on here feel that their partner don't understand our need for machines like a snowblower.
Same could be said for how many men on here feel that their partner don't understand our need for sex, but that's a complete other forum topic for Dr Ruth.
When our other says there's a burnt bulb in the bahtroom, she doesn't mean I'll go to the hardware store and get a bulb and I'll replace it. She means "Ah ******* get off your butt and fix this" When she says the bathroom drain flows slowly she doesn't mean "I'll get the tools out and clean the trap" She means "Ah ******* get off your butt and fix this"
I'm 62 and getting real tired of this and have no clue how to get out of this predicament. Leaving behind all that I've worked for all my life is a solution but a very hurting one.
keep working at it.., hope it gets better Coby7

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I'm done trying to justify myself or compromise...get on the cranman train or jump off...who cares.....
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Why stay together if you are miserable? She sounds like she won't compromise so maybe it's best to part ways. A relationship is built on trust, respect, and love for each other. If any of those is missing, it just doesn't work. At that point, you are just roommates. I went thru a divorce 35 years ago, it was horrible.
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